Do you really need that in your life?
“OPINIONS ARE LIKE ARSEHOLES… EVERYONE’S GOT ONE.”
HAVE YOU HEARD OF THIS SAYING BEFORE?
It’s true, everyone thinks they know best, but it’s your job to funnel through the noise and find what works for you.
Everything we know in life is learned; whether it’s from a book or teacher, or simply from life just kicking you in the face.
These lessons are what make you who you are. The big slap in the face you get when you trust someone wholeheartedly and they stab you in the back to make themselves feel better or when life takes a loved one away from you, just when you thought you had it all figured out.
These are the definitive times in life that determine who you are. Do you yourself implode, go on a week-long binge, or make things worse by lashing out at those who genuinely care about you? Or do you take a deep breath, sit down, have a cup of tea, and learn from it?
Life is hard and not many of us get a handout, but if life dealt you a crap hand you can’t spend the rest of your life using it as a crutch.
I had a sketchy upbringing, I did a bunch of things I’m now not proud of, but I felt I had to do it at the time. I have some learning difficulties that were not picked up during school and as the years went by I added anxiety, depression, and a whole heap of stress to my messed up tool belt, but I don’t use it as a reason to hold me back. In my eyes, that’s a cop-out, an easy escape from trying harder.
Some of us are genuinely good people, but we hold ourselves back because we are scared of failure and rejection. We think people will laugh at us for trying or point out everything we do wrong or that we could have done better. They add to the voice in your head telling you that you’re not good enough, so why even bother trying?
Everyone knows people like this, everyone has a work colleague or so-called friend that will always make a point of telling you that you’re fucking up or not doing something right, but 9 times out of 10 the person saying this stuff to you is more messed up than you are! They doubt themselves and are even more scared than you to even try. They get jealous that you have built up the courage to give it a go and try to do something with your life.
So, fuck them and fuck their noise! You do not need people like that in your life! There are over 8 billion people in the world, and that one person that is currently giving you a hard time is so insignificant and I think it’s mind-blowing that we let people like that affect us.
If you know someone like that, mute them on social media for a start, let them have less of an impression on you and your mindset. Cut them off from being able to have their negative opinion shared in your ‘space’, and mute them on WhatsApp because you know they will message you when they need to make themselves feel better.
And that goes for most of the people you follow on social media, why do we still follow these people from school we haven’t spoken to for years? They add nothing to your life now. Why do we follow these social media influencers that post nothing but clickbait and sponsored stuff?
I’m not saying only follow people that have the same view as you, not in the slightest. Look for different opinions, play devil’s advocate on all of the information thrown at you, and try to follow credible people with experience or knowledge on a subject, and who have done the research to back it up. In the long term, you will at least learn something from an intelligent debate.
What I’m getting at is try to take some time to focus on what will make you happy, truly happy. And then look at who you need in your life to make it happen. There are so many good people out there and even more people who could do so much good in the world if only they weren’t being beaten down by negativity every day.
Keep your head up and believe in yourself, have laser focus,
and don’t listen to the noise. Stay true to yourself and be brave!
I’LL ALWAYS TAKE TIME TO LISTEN IF YOU NEED IT AND POST SOMETHING HERE IF YOU NEED TO GET AN IDEA OUT OF YOUR HEAD AND INTO THE WORLD.